Never forget your self worth. Never lose your self respect to please anybody.
No matter how where you go, no matter how old you get, you’ll always cross paths with shitty guys. But there are different types of shitty guys:
- Player / F***boy
The players/f***boy’s are not that hard to detect. Typically, they are very charming, good at sweet talk, A++ at flirting. -Mind you, not all guys who are charming and sweet are players or f***boys-. They are all talk but no action. They’ll feed you everything you want to hear, they know exactly what girls want to hear. For example: saying you’re beautiful, you’re not like any other girl, saying that you’re perfect just the way you are – BUT you just met him. Rule of thumb to remember: anything he says, make sure to watch for his behavior and actions, if it doesn’t match the sweet words coming out of his mouth = player/f***boy. Typically, they will want to meet you/take you out on a date ASAP., prior to properly getting to know you. They will usually suggest “grabbing drinks” or meeting at a pub/bar as the first date/meeting. And will suggest late evening as the time to meet. (i.e. past 6/7pm). If you reply back saying either that, you don’t drink, or the time is too late for you and he doesn’t counter back asking what you would prefer and instead replies back anything along the lines of: “oh that’s too bad.” = player/f***boy.
The manipulator can be a bit tricky to spot but not impossible. Typical signs include; playing the victim card, making you feel sorry for them, making you feel guilty/bad like you did or said something wrong, – pretty much tugging at your heart strings and playing with your emotions/sensitive side/sympathy. It’s a red flag especially if he pulls this move too early on. Of course if you have been seeing the guy for awhile and he is opening up to you, that is different.
Watch out for him making this move right when you meet him.
Ex. “I haven’t had sex in 3 months..” (seriously…)
- The One Full of Bullshit
By full of bullshit means, he talks a big game but doesn’t have any proof to back it up. He’s either full of lies, full of excuses, full of empty promises, and just full of himself.
They don’t deserve your time, your energy or even you telling them to take a hike. The minute I spot a player/f***boy, I don’t even bother continuing the conversation or even giving the satisfaction of me telling them off. I just “unmatch” or block & delete their number and on all social media platforms. The manipulators are kind of my favourite, because I can’t help but to laugh hysterically at them thinking that a shady move like that would work on me. They are also my favourites because I love calling them and their game plan out. Followed with; “unmatch” or block & delete. The one full of bullshit, if you do your proper background checks on them, you’ll know what is truth prior to him trying to tell you lies or exaggerate the truth, turning it into a lie. I typically give this type of guys 3 shots to tell the truth or to follow through with his words. Then he’s OUT.
To some, this may be perceived as harsh or too cut throat. I’ve been through way too many bad experiences with shitty guys, that I just got to the point where I said “Enough is enough.” I learned all the red flags and early signs, I know my self worth, and I have enough self respect to not waste my time or energy with any type of shitty guys listed above.
Never give somebody excuses for their bad behavior/treatment towards you. You deserve better then any of those guys and that type of treatment.