Never forget your self worth. Never lose your self respect to please anybody.
No matter how where you go, no matter how old you get, you’ll always cross paths with shitty guys. But there are different types of shitty guys:
- Player / F***boy
The players/f***boy’s are not that hard to detect. Typically, they are very charming, good at sweet talk, A++ at flirting. -Mind you, not all guys who are charming and sweet are players or f***boys-. They are all talk but no action. They’ll feed you everything you want to hear, they know exactly what girls want to hear. For example: saying you’re beautiful, you’re not like any other girl, saying that you’re perfect just the way you are – BUT you just met him. Rule of thumb to remember: anything he says, make sure to watch for his behavior and actions, if it doesn’t match the sweet words coming out of his mouth = player/f***boy. Typically, they will want to meet you/take you out on a date ASAP., prior to properly getting to know you. They will usually suggest “grabbing drinks” or meeting at a pub/bar as the first date/meeting. And will suggest late evening as the time to meet. (i.e. past 6/7pm). If you reply back saying either that, you don’t drink, or the time is too late for you and he doesn’t counter back asking what you would prefer and instead replies back anything along the lines of: “oh that’s too bad.” = player/f***boy.
The manipulator can be a bit tricky to spot but not impossible. Typical signs include; playing the victim card, making you feel sorry for them, making you feel guilty/bad like you did or said something wrong, – pretty much tugging at your heart strings and playing with your emotions/sensitive side/sympathy. It’s a red flag especially if he pulls this move too early on. Of course if you have been seeing the guy for awhile and he is opening up to you, that is different.
Watch out for him making this move right when you meet him.
Ex. “I haven’t had sex in 3 months..” (seriously…)
- The One Full of Bullshit
By full of bullshit means, he talks a big game but doesn’t have any proof to back it up. He’s either full of lies, full of excuses, full of empty promises, and just full of himself.
They don’t deserve your time, your energy or even you telling them to take a hike. The minute I spot a player/f***boy, I don’t even bother continuing the conversation or even giving the satisfaction of me telling them off. I just “unmatch” or block & delete their number and on all social media platforms. The manipulators are kind of my favourite, because I can’t help but to laugh hysterically at them thinking that a shady move like that would work on me. They are also my favourites because I love calling them and their game plan out. Followed with; “unmatch” or block & delete. The one full of bullshit, if you do your proper background checks on them, you’ll know what is truth prior to him trying to tell you lies or exaggerate the truth, turning it into a lie. I typically give this type of guys 3 shots to tell the truth or to follow through with his words. Then he’s OUT.
To some, this may be perceived as harsh or too cut throat. I’ve been through way too many bad experiences with shitty guys, that I just got to the point where I said “Enough is enough.” I learned all the red flags and early signs, I know my self worth, and I have enough self respect to not waste my time or energy with any type of shitty guys listed above.
Never give somebody excuses for their bad behavior/treatment towards you. You deserve better then any of those guys and that type of treatment.
Who is my favourite NHL hockey player?
You’re probably wanting to know, why Roberto Luongo? It’s not a typical answer, the usual picks are; Sidney Crosby, Jonathan Toews, Alex Ovechkin, Tyler Seguin, etc. (All really great players).
Why Luongo is my favourite player:
- He may not be statistically the best goaltender in the league. But he’s incredibly entertaining to watch, he engages everybody watching. He even has his own cheer: LUUUUUUU. He is probably one of the best goalie at making glove hand saves by far!
- He has won 2 Olympic gold medals for Canada in 2010 and 2014. To me, the hardest trophy to win is the Olympic gold medal over the Stanley Cup. Not just any NHL player can play in the Olympics, you have to be chosen by your country to represent them. And you’re playing against the best players in the NHL
- He may have not won a Stanley Cup and may not get to win one before he retires. But he is one the biggest reason to Vancouver Canucks being able to not just win a President Trophy but to beat Chicago Blackhawks (the team that was given the Canucks the hardest time in the playoffs) and take the team to the Stanley Cup Finals in 2011. Didn’t win, but it’s the amount of effort and heart he put into that playoff run, especially Game 7 in the finals against Boston Bruins.
- He’ll be automatically entered in the Hockey Hall of Fame after he retires (without winning a Cup). Most goalies (and players) that are in the Hockey Hall of Fame currently have at least won a Stanley Cup once.
- He got traded off the Canucks to the Florida Panthers 3 years ago. At that time, the Panthers were a struggling team in the Eastern Conference. In matter of 2 seasons, Luongo (who was the biggest contributor) helped elevate the team, and took the Panthers to the playoffs, for the first time in over 5-10 years.
- He’s a great role model for life in general. The way he handles hockey fans and commentators always criticizing him for goals he lets in, for bad games he may have, and just for not being perfect. (It is because he was the highest paid goalie in the league, people had higher expectations out of him compared to other goalies.) Which I think, that is ridiculous, he’s still a human being like every other goalie not a robot. He never stopped trying and striving. And over the years I watched him develop, evolve and better his game/style of play. He makes fun of himself, makes jokes. Especially on Twitter @strombone. It is a great way to handle hate and haters.
- He always had great relationships with his back up goalies. He never looks at his back up goalies as competition but as a friend and someone to mentor. Majority of the starter goalies see their back up as competition, and prefers to not get close with them. At the end of the day, the back up goalie is there to fill in for the nights off and games when starter cannot play in. Then eventually of course, back up is going to become the new starter once the starter goalie hits that age where they are just not physically able to play as many games anymore.
- He has never disappointed a fan, including me! He interacts with fans on social media but also in real life. Even if he is busy or doesn’t have a lot of time to stop and interact with fans, he will still make that small bit of time because he knows it means everything to us, the fans. I’ve met a lot of NHL players, mostly because I used to work at Rogers Arena. Many are very friendly but there are those that think they are too good to even talk to you, acknowledge you and if they are not in the mood, won’t sign your jersey or take a picture with you (which only takes like 30 secs).
- He stuck with the Vancouver Canucks for 8 years, until they decided to trade him. He put up with so much from Vancouver fans. Vancouver is very passionate about hockey and are the harshest on the goaltenders. They blamed him for every game the team lost, but never credited him for when the team did win. They credited only the players that scored. Hockey, is a team sport, the loss is not to blame on one player only. Through it all, he made light of the situation, made jokes, and shrugged them off.
- He may have not won a Stanley Cup, but he has other accomplishments; winning the Jennings award 2011, 2 Olympic gold medals, 2 President Trophies, being the highest paid goalie (until Henrik Lundqvist’s contract), and attended 8 NHL All Star games. He is ranked in top 5 goalies with the most career wins. Has been nominated for the Vezina many times, but lost them to Martin Brodeur.
I look up to Roberto Luongo, his attitude towards the situation he got put under is very admirable. He is a great role model to any young goalies out there. He’s also the person that taught me how to handle haters and bullying. How to handle people scrutinizing me for not being perfect or for making mistakes. His drive to keep on trying even when everybody was telling him “you’ll never win a Stanley Cup”, didn’t listen and stay the same. He always strives to be better and minimize his flaws. He never gave up, and still hasn’t.