Success

I’ve been MIA for a bit. Just thinking about what to post about next…

Success

What does that mean for you? For everybody, it’ll be something different.

  • To be rich
  • To get your dream job
  • To get a promotion at your current job
  • To achieve your dreams and goals

Such a simple word with broad and countless meanings behind it. When do you know you have gained success? Does it end when you have? Or is it something to achieve for but not obtainable because success is in your mindset?

To you, you haven’t achieved success. But to someone else, they may look at you and think you’re very successful. Either in your career or in life.

A positive, and ambitious mindset can lead you to many opportunities and open up many doors. The saying is: “you attract what you put out.” ( unfortunately, that doesn’t apply to love. More explanation to come in a different post.)

There is always, room to grow and develop yourself to do better and do more. I’ve never been the type that was happy being stuck in neutral. I’ve always wanted to keep climbing that ladder and one day, hit the tippy top. Sometimes you may find yourself, losing focus because you’re so focused on the end goal and not the journey. I have those moments. But soon remember, to enjoy the journey currently and trust in the path.

Nobody has the same journey or same end goal. But you can always learn something from everybody’s journey and their vision of an end goal.

What’s mine?

My end goal, is to leave a legacy behind. To become an inspiring & motivating role model to all.

My journey, is preparing me to become just that. Going through all sorts of life’s uncertainties and meeting variety of people, I’ve observed, and reacted accordingly. Learned from my mistakes and tried to do better the next time around. I’ve proven to many people I’ve met that, age is just a number. Just because I’m young doesn’t necessarily mean I haven’t been through life’s s***. Does not mean I haven’t dealt with difficult times. I have met older people that find me, inspiring. That gives them hope that it will get better. Many who have met me also discover; to never judge a book by its cover. You don’t know somebody’s life based from what they look like. Being narrow minded, does not lead you to meet amazing people or to amazing places.

The best way to figure out what success means to you and what success looks like for you, is to figure out your purpose. Everybody has a purpose.

♡Sassy MsHockeyTalk

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Self Respect & Self Worth

Never forget your self worth. Never lose your self respect to please anybody.

No matter how where you go, no matter how old you get, you’ll always cross paths with shitty guys. But there are different types of shitty guys:

  • Player / F***boy
    The players/f***boy’s are not that hard to detect. Typically, they are very charming, good at sweet talk, A++ at flirting. -Mind you, not all guys who are charming and sweet are players or f***boys-. They are all talk but no action. They’ll feed you everything you want to hear, they know exactly what girls want to hear. For example: saying you’re beautiful, you’re not like any other girl, saying that you’re perfect just the way you are – BUT you just met him. Rule of thumb to remember: anything he says, make sure to watch for his behavior and actions, if it doesn’t match the sweet words coming out of his mouth = player/f***boy. Typically, they will want to meet you/take you out on a date ASAP., prior to properly getting to know you. They will usually suggest “grabbing drinks” or meeting at a pub/bar as the first date/meeting. And will suggest late evening as the time to meet. (i.e. past 6/7pm). If you reply back saying either that, you don’t drink, or the time is too late for you and he doesn’t counter back asking what you would prefer and instead replies back anything along the lines of: “oh that’s too bad.” = player/f***boy.
  • Manipulator
    The manipulator can be a bit tricky to spot but not impossible. Typical signs include; playing the victim card, making you feel sorry for them, making you feel guilty/bad like you did or said something wrong, – pretty much tugging at your heart strings and playing with your emotions/sensitive side/sympathy.  It’s a red flag especially if he pulls this move too early on. Of course if you have been seeing the guy for awhile and he is opening up to you, that is different.
    Watch out for him making this move right when you meet him.
    Ex. “I haven’t had sex in 3 months..”  (seriously…)
  • The One Full of Bullshit
    By full of bullshit means, he talks a big game but doesn’t have any proof to back it up. He’s either full of lies, full of excuses, full of empty promises, and just full of himself.

They don’t deserve your time, your energy or even you telling them to take a hike. The minute I spot a player/f***boy, I don’t even bother continuing the conversation or even giving the satisfaction of me telling them off. I just “unmatch” or block & delete their number and on all social media platforms. The manipulators are kind of my favourite, because I can’t help but to laugh hysterically at them thinking that a shady move like that would work on me. They are also my favourites because I love calling them and their game plan out. Followed with; “unmatch” or block & delete. The one full of bullshit, if you do your proper background checks on them, you’ll know what is truth prior to him trying to tell you lies or exaggerate the truth, turning it into a lie. I typically give this type of guys 3 shots to tell the truth or to follow through with his words. Then he’s OUT.

To some, this may be perceived as harsh or too cut throat. I’ve been through way too many bad experiences with shitty guys, that I just got to the point where I said “Enough is enough.” I learned all the red flags and early signs, I know my self worth, and I have enough self respect to not waste my time or energy with any type of shitty guys listed above.

Never give somebody excuses for their bad behavior/treatment towards you. You deserve better then any of those guys and that type of treatment.

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♡Sassy MsHockeyTalk

You Are Not Alone!

There are many lessons I have learned from every bad sìtuatiom I had to go through. I want to pass this on to everyone. 

Everybody has been through difficult times and hard times. So, to anybody that is in a current state of feeling stuck, hopeless or depressed, please read on.

Since I was a little girl, I grew up having a lot of pressure to be perfect. Pressure came from church people because I was the pastor’s daughter, and from peers (friends, classmates, etc). If I ever made a mistake, I got scrutinized heavily. I got bullied badly from guys from grade 6 until grade 11 for not being pretty and skinny. I wasn’t over weight or ugly but that’s what they saw me as. I had people betray me, and back stab me. These people were ones I either considered friends/ best friends to peers that I was nothing but kind to. 

That’s just a brief summary of what i went through for years. It resulted in anorexia, bulimia, severe depression, suicidal thoughts, 2 suicide attempts, self harm, trust issues, 0 self confidence & self esteem. I would go to the bathroom in the dark so I couldn’t see my reflection in the mirror and if I did I would break down and cry. I used to hate myself every time I made a mistake. Tried so hard to be perfect. I had such bad anxiety, I didn’t leave my home for a whole year.

Until one day I got tired of feeling this way and wanted to do something about it. I didn’t seek a therapist or a counsellor. I became my own therapist. Everyday I would read motivational quotes and bible verses. Not just read them but believe them. I learned to love myself, every part of me, including my quirks and flaws. I decided; instead of trying to fit in, I’ll stand out. It wasn’t easy, it didn’t happen over night. In over a course of 5+ years; I built back up my self confidence and self esteem, I learned how to truly and fully love myself and to stop seeking validation from others.

What did I learn?

  • Everywhere you go, you’ll cross paths with mean, vindictive and petty people. They’ll be nice to you but behind your back, trying to screw you over. I never understood these types of people, but unfortunately they exist. Never allow them to rob your inner peace and happiness. Never stoop down to their level and try to get back at them. Be kind, polite but keep your distance from them.
  • There will always be haters. They don’t hate you because you did wrong to them, but it’s a self reflection of how they feel about themselves. Bitter and hates anybody around them that are happy or has more then them. Don’t let them get to you. It’s not easy but best thing to do is ignore their hateful behaviours and words.
  • There will always be somebody better looking then You, smarter then you, or who has something you want. Never compare yourself or your life to somebody else’s. The grass is not greener on the other side. What you see or perceive as is never always the full truth. Focus on you and the people in your life that support you.
  • It’s okay to have low moments in life. But remember, life keeps moving forward, there is no pause button. So, if currently you’re feeling down or unsatisfied with your current situation, doesn’t mean it’ll forever stay that way. But, you have to use that as your motivation to make a change.
  • You deserve to be happy. 
  • You are beautiful. No matter what people or society tells you, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
  • You’re perfect just the way you are because you’re original, unique and one of a kind.
  • It’s okay to feel like an orange surrounded by a bunch of apples. Just own your orange-ness. (LOL)

I can’t tell you that life will get easier but I can tell you that you can get stronger from  each shitty situation or experiences that life throws at you. 

Don’t be afraid to go chase your dreams, and to go after what you want. Don’t let haters and mean people get in your way.

I’m here if you need someone to vent to. I’m here if you need a friend. I am here if you need someone to give you that motivational pep talk every time you have bad days. 

Most importantly, I understand & I care.

Shoot me a message through my contact form if you life or leave a comment below.

♡Sassy MsHockeyTalk

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